A Recalcitrant Wife and Mother Tells All

Sweaty Beeyotch

This post was originally published on 9/14/2008, but the timing felt right to dust it off and air it out. Hope you enjoy!

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Me: “It’s 8:15 (AM).  Where are you?  Am I waiting in the wrong place?”

We were going to meet halfway between our houses and drive together.

Laura: “No, I’m on my way.  I’ll be a few minutes late.  We’ll make it though…we just have to be there 20 minutes before the class starts.   Did you bring a towel and a mat?”

Me: “What?  No!  I didn’t know I was supposed to do that.  DAMMIT!  They are totally not going to let me through the door.”

Laura: “Relax, Debbie Downer…wah-wah-waaaaaah (she injects the Debbie Downer trombone sound from the SNL skit).  It will be fine.  I’m throwing the minivan into turbo drive….I’m working the spoiler.  It helps.  People move out of the way when they see a minivan with a spoiler.”

OK.  Exhale.  We’ll make it.  This will be an adventure. Iris and Laura’s Most Excellent Sweaty Yoga Adventure.

So I waited.  And I waited.  And I waited.  And no Laura.  She was more than a few minutes late, which she says is so unlike her, but I find that hard to believe.  Laura and I are one and the same.  And I am never on-time.

During our ass-hauling over there we giggled about how sexy we would be coming home to our husbands all sweaty and stinky with our chakras aligned and pulsating.  Then Laura strategized out loud about not wanting to position her mat downwind from me, given my recent battle with prescription-drug induced flatulence.

Well, of course, it was further away than we realized, even with my masterful knowledge of the suburban back roads and short cuts.  We squealed into the parking lot of Bikram Yoga at 8:55 AM….five minutes before the start of class.  This was when Laura got a whiff of me and said, “Oh, did I tell you you’re not supposed to wear lotion or perfume?”  Ehh, noooooo.  I had on both.  And some really pungent Aveda hair stuff that is supposed to tame my white girl afro.  Yeah, there is no way they are letting me in.

But my fears were quelled at once when I saw the place from the outside.  The three cute awnings above the three windows read: “It’s”… “Hot” … “Stuff.”  Perfect.  I like this place already.  We were both pretty intimidated about doing “Sweaty Yoga” for the first time, but SO looking forward to it.  Hailed as the hottest new workout, literally, you basically do 26 poses of yoga in a heated room for 90 minutes. Supposedly, it is designed for all ages and all levels.  It increases flexibility and burns shit-loads of calories at the same time (up to 600 of ’em, dang!).  “The ideal complete workout.”  And even though we were both terrified about our vaginas not cooperating with the inverted poses and making all kinds of inappropriate noises, what with each of us birthing three ginormous babies a piece, we were gonna give it a shot… a hot, swampy, fog-horn sounding shot.

We watched a really normal looking guy walk in ahead of us with just a towel, no mat, and flip flops.  We agreed that he didn’t look very intimidating.  Maybe this wouldn’t be so scary after all. And look, there is a quote on the pamphlets by the door:

“Never too bad,
never too late,
never too sick,
never too old
to start from scratch again”
-Bikram Choudhury

OK.  Cool.  “Never too late.” This place is going to be awesome.  Deep breath.  Maybe they’ll cut us a break about being a little late, you know, just for good will.  Yogis are supposed to be so balanced and flexible. I bet they’ll be really nice.  Or maybe they’ll look at us and not be able to tell it is our first time there and not stress about how late we are. This will be ok.  Another deep breath.  No turning back.  Let’s do this!  Purposely, with confidence and enthusiasm, we pulled open the door.

And this is when we came face to face with HER….the Bikram Yoga Nazi.

“Don’t tell me this is your first class,” she spat in her heavy Eastern-European accent. “You’re LATE.  You are supposed to be here 20 mintues early for your first class.  I cannot possibly take care of you if you are not on time.”

Surrounding the Nazi in the reception area were about 20 very smug looking veteran Bikram Yoga enthusiasts in perfectly coordinated exercise ensembles drinking water from aluminum bottles and getting their well toned limbs and silicone boobs into the zone. Gawd, a public bitch slapping.  I hadn’t felt this unwelcome anywhere since the time I showed up at an AA meeting wearing my boyfriend’s Wheel of Fortune-style “Sometimes Alcohol IS the Answer” T-Shirt.

Absolutely SHOCKED by this kind of full-frontal confrontation so early in the morning, Laura and I both immediately assumed the “deer in the headlights” position. “Ummmm….Ooooo-Kay.  Well, can we have a schedule or something so we know when the next class is?”

“Fine,” she seethed, and practically threw two schedules into our stunned faces.  We turned on our heels and slunk out the door with our chins to our chests.  After the door hit us in the asses on our way out, we turned and faced each other and burst into the most delicious belly laugh we had shared since Palin’s nomination. “Wow, that is not at all what I was expecting.  Come on.  Let’s go get some Krispy Kremes or maybe some pork rinds.  And a drink.  Is it too early for tequila?”  I can’t remember who said that… I think I have post traumatic stress disorder.

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Epilogue: We never went back to that place. I took up running instead. Then quit. But now I’m feeling like a slug and need to start exercising again. And one of my friends just started doing yoga (at a different place than the one described above), so I’ve been thinking about joining her there. And that reminded me of this story. The end.

Happy Monday!


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  1. Julie @ mamamash

    Yoga in a sauna sounds about as much fun as sex in a smelting factory.

  2. Anne A.

    I had no idea you were aquainted with the Yoga Nazi- horrendous! She is the opposite of what Yoga is about. Come with me Friday.

  3. Gina

    Totally worth the re-run, esp. since I have only recently found you!

  4. Danielle@sixtasteschef

    Oh noes! Mean yoga lady!!

    Did you ever try yoga again?

    • Danielle@sixtasteschef

      Oops, now I see that you wrote the epilogue today, not three years ago…. I hope you do try yoga again! But not where there are mean yoga ladies working. Hopefully there’s a better, nicer studio around.

  5. Fiveogrrl

    Apparently that belly thing that Buckethead can do is a Yoga persons dream move. It’s shows that he has amazing control over his muscles. I saw some Guru on the travel channel do that shit, I was like, ” OMFG BUCKETHEAD can do that!”

  6. Didi

    You had me at “Easten European”… yep, yep you did!! Nuf said!!

  7. Allysgrandma

    Geez I thought you were writing about me when I saw the title. I am one sweaty beotch these days here in Beaufort, South Carolina and now we get to prepare for evacuation!! I am filling YD’s car with gas and loading up on supplies. We may be heading to Atlanta which apparently is where the military wives go. Gotta find a hotel that takes dogs! My MD who lives in Charleston and is still training in 911 dispatch has already been told she has the weekend off, nonessential personnel….since she is still training she would just be a hinderance.

    • The Bearded Iris

      OMG, you better contact me if you come to ATL! Would love to meet you, crazy lady.

  8. Jessica

    Yes. It’s about time I got to you, Iris.
    Recalcitrant wives & mothers unite.

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