A Recalcitrant Wife and Mother Tells All

Those aren’t my family values.

Please join me In The Powder Room today to read the single most gut-wrenching column I’ve ever written. Oy, parenting. Nobody ever said it would be easy, but situations like this make me wish all my babies had four legs and no extracurricular activities.

Scout's honor, we do not condone the BSA policy to discriminate agains LGBT.



  1. fiveogrrl

    Thanks for this one Iris <3

  2. Halala Mama

    I completely understand. I teach in a parochial school. I have former students whom I now know are LGBT. I was a Confirmation sponsor for two of them. And while I didn’t know their sexual orientation when I sponsored them, I would have done it all over again. I watch them struggle to reconcile their Catholic faith with who they are. But what I know for certain is that Jesus loves them as more than I do and he would never, ever reject them. And neither should we.

    • The Bearded Iris

      So beautifully said! Thank you. Nobody should ever have to feel rejected like that because of who they are. The Catholic Priest who directed my RCIA class 12 years ago taught me that everything boils down to one answer: “God is LOVE.”

  3. Kristin @ What She Said

    I love your humor, girl, but you need to get serious more often. That was amazing! I tweeted (pardon me) and will sign the petition.

    • The Bearded Iris

      Thank you Kristin, for the support, the signature, and the love.

  4. Glen

    bah – damn you and your ‘so-clever-writing-on-the-same-day-as-me’ shenanigans … grrr. too blummin good – that’s your problem.

    • The Bearded Iris

      Oh Glen – you so crazy. I’ll get back to my regularly scheduled vagina monologue next week.

  5. Lunacy

    Got yourself a typo there girl. Missing a “t”. Please know that I greatly appreciate the sentiment. I have several friends and family members who are openly gay, and I feel it is so important for us to teach our kids to respect and value all people regardless of who they choose to love.

  6. julie gardner

    I read your post last night at my kids’ karate studio and was still scrolling through all the comments it elicited when their class ended.

    (You bring out some passionate, articulate commentary, my friend!)

    I didn’t respond (yet) and I still might not because I feel so strongly about this subject I’m not sure I know how to put it to words and I have no answers.

    With so many controversial topics I can see (at least a tiny bit) the opposing views. But I cannot, no matter how hard I try, understand the continued oppression of an entire subset of our population.

    I just can’t. So. I guess I commented after all.
    But I don’t think I said anything that helps.


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